haché (ha-shay)
un steak haché = hamburger (the French say hamburger when the burger is served on a bun; sans bun and it's called un steak haché)
A DAY IN A FRENCH LIFE
by Kristin Espinasse
My friend Ann wrote a new book called Mastering the Art of French Eating. Now there's a book I could have used when coming to France. Then, the world of food and dining was as foreign to me as the bon vivants who lived there.
Over the years I've had to paste together my own version of l'Art de Manger Française. Here are just a few gleanings:
Get your order right or end up with a marijuana burger
It's easy to flub up an order, or une commande–but a command of the French language will save you the embarrassment. Take your time when ordering and avoid the mistake I made when, as a young recruit at the chamber of commerce in Marseilles, I slipped out to lunch at a nearby burger joint and ordered a steak hashish….
Don't stock beans or other things
While playing house with my then boyfriend, I was lining up the cans of haricots verts and thon and maïs when I received a polite request: Essayons de ne pas stocker la nourriture, Jean-Marc suggested. It was true, why hoard food when the market was nearby? By buying only what we needed we could eat fresher meals and save money (by not having to toss out expired food).
Is French milk older than a toddler?
One of the things the French do stock is milk. So much so that it has a creepy-long shelf life! (the French keep their milk in the cupboard until opening the bottle, at which point it's stored in the fridge).
It is an acquired taste le lait UHT (sterilized, longue durée) but one thing's sure: a café au lait made in France is appreciated far and wide. Americans love it! So if you've ever wondered why you couldn't recreate the creamy taste back home, now you know: fresh milk's the culprit.
6 o'clock is when the birds eat
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Isn't there a rule about keeping your elbows off the table and left hand in your lap when dining? It's practically the opposite in France, where a hand that disappears beneath the table might be up to no good (feeding the hostesse's escargots to the dog, are you? Or maybe, as in olden times, you're reaching for your gun?! Best to keep your hands to the sides of your plate so the hostess can relax.
(When I first learned this rule, I didn't know about hungry dogs or outlaws, or the history behind the "hands on table" etiquette. My guess was that French innuendo was at play again–and that the French were always imagining the racy side of things. In America we call below the table "hanky-panky" footsies.)
Bon ap'!
It's lovely in any culture to wish each other bon appetit, but the French go as far as blessing complete strangers. Bon appétit, they'll call out, when you're seated on a park bench chowing down on un sandwich au fromage. Bon appétit, they'll shout, when you're stopped at a traffic light, inhaling a croissant, late for work. Bon appétit, you'll hear, when strolling down the street, window-shopping and munching on a slice of pizza. It can be embarrassing… or deeply charming. Depends on how you take things.
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le haricot vert = green bean
le thon = tuna
le maïs = corn
essayons de ne pas stocker de la nourriture = let's try not to stock food
I leave you with a few recipes–in case you missed them:
Tomato Tart — don't miss this favorite! It's tomato season here in France and time to make this easy, fast recipe that everyone loves!
No Grudge Fudge : you won't be mad at yourself after eating this organic 4-ingredient sweet treat. I've made it several times since posting the recipe (the latest version is a Reese's knock off! Just add peanut butter…)
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Braise (above left) and I in 2009. One of these 6 pups is Smokey.
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I am so excited about Ann’s book coming out! I can’t wait! I have an inkling that it is going to be a smashing success. But sshhh, don’t tell her. Wouldn’t want to jinx anything now, would we?
And I have stopped saying “Bon ap'” since my Honey implied that it is no longer actually polite. Party pooper. I think that he is just indulging his bourge aspirations… 😉
PS. I could look at that puppy attack photo all day.
I am so excited about Ann’s book coming out! I can’t wait! I have an inkling that it is going to be a smashing success. But sshhh, don’t tell her. Wouldn’t want to jinx anything now, would we?
And I have stopped saying “Bon ap'” since my Honey implied that it is no longer actually polite. Party pooper. I think that he is just indulging his bourge aspirations… 😉
PS. I could look at that puppy attack photo all day.
We’ve also had trouble with the French dinner hour that doesn’t start until 7pm or later. It’s not as bad as Spain where they don’t eat until 9pm, and usually later.
One of our favorite restaurants is La Girocedre, in Puyméras, about three miles from Vaison la Romaine where we had spent a wonderful two weeks, including a visit to Rouge Bleu.
We’ve also had trouble with the French dinner hour that doesn’t start until 7pm or later. It’s not as bad as Spain where they don’t eat until 9pm, and usually later.
One of our favorite restaurants is La Girocedre, in Puyméras, about three miles from Vaison la Romaine where we had spent a wonderful two weeks, including a visit to Rouge Bleu.
Your food tips brought a smile – thank you. And thank you for pointing us to Ann Mah’s posting. It will be fun to read her reflections as well.
Your food tips brought a smile – thank you. And thank you for pointing us to Ann Mah’s posting. It will be fun to read her reflections as well.
I love that photo of you and the pups! What a dream.
Bonne journée à tous from rainy Paris.
I love that photo of you and the pups! What a dream.
Bonne journée à tous from rainy Paris.
I love the use of “à table” to assemble everyone for a meal. We watched a French movie with subtitles the other night. While the English translation showed, “Lunch is ready,” I could hear Maman calling out “à table!”
I love the use of “à table” to assemble everyone for a meal. We watched a French movie with subtitles the other night. While the English translation showed, “Lunch is ready,” I could hear Maman calling out “à table!”
Oh, thank you, Kristin, for mentioning my book here — and to all your lovely readers for joining the giveaway!
I love today’s post. I’m always so nervous when dining à la française — from keeping my hands visible to not going to the bathroom — it’s full of politesse pitfalls! 🙂 I’m still confused on how to neatly help myself to very runny cheese.
Oh, thank you, Kristin, for mentioning my book here — and to all your lovely readers for joining the giveaway!
I love today’s post. I’m always so nervous when dining à la française — from keeping my hands visible to not going to the bathroom — it’s full of politesse pitfalls! 🙂 I’m still confused on how to neatly help myself to very runny cheese.
Salut Kristin,
Wow! Going on 11 years! Great! Looks like your blog is going to survive. Ha!
I had my table manners “redefined” in France! To this day I eat with a knife in one hand and a fork in the other. None of this “chasing” food around the plate with the fork used as a shovel and no fair using bread or, heaven forbid, your fingers as a backstop. However, I do like to sop-up any leftover gravy or juices with some bread as a finale.
À bientôt
Salut Kristin,
Wow! Going on 11 years! Great! Looks like your blog is going to survive. Ha!
I had my table manners “redefined” in France! To this day I eat with a knife in one hand and a fork in the other. None of this “chasing” food around the plate with the fork used as a shovel and no fair using bread or, heaven forbid, your fingers as a backstop. However, I do like to sop-up any leftover gravy or juices with some bread as a finale.
À bientôt
Hi Honey,
Thanks for the inspiration today – I jumped right on your photo with the puppies crawling all over you and just finished a two hour loose sketch of this wonderful memory. I heard your sweet voice in the corners of my mind saying, “Mom, stop right here – don’t add anymore paint….so I have taken your advice and walked away just now. I will save this sketch for you when you come to visit…
Could you please order a copy of Ann’s book for me – I still remember her last book as one of my all time favorites.
I miss you Honey – I wish travel was easier and less expensive – I need my “Kristi-fix”….
XOXO
MOM
Hi Honey,
Thanks for the inspiration today – I jumped right on your photo with the puppies crawling all over you and just finished a two hour loose sketch of this wonderful memory. I heard your sweet voice in the corners of my mind saying, “Mom, stop right here – don’t add anymore paint….so I have taken your advice and walked away just now. I will save this sketch for you when you come to visit…
Could you please order a copy of Ann’s book for me – I still remember her last book as one of my all time favorites.
I miss you Honey – I wish travel was easier and less expensive – I need my “Kristi-fix”….
XOXO
MOM
Haha, my first fleeting thought when you typed “Bon Ap”, was a cell phone app (like have fun with that ap, lo) Don’t know why I thought that. I will have to use this new phrase here at home. Don’t think I could adjust to that milk, still prefer it ice cold. 😉
Haha, my first fleeting thought when you typed “Bon Ap”, was a cell phone app (like have fun with that ap, lo) Don’t know why I thought that. I will have to use this new phrase here at home. Don’t think I could adjust to that milk, still prefer it ice cold. 😉
This post was a wonderful read! Brought back so many French memories. Favorite place to eat? Back of the house screened in porch…could happily spend every night out there, weather permitting. So glad to have found your blog!!
This post was a wonderful read! Brought back so many French memories. Favorite place to eat? Back of the house screened in porch…could happily spend every night out there, weather permitting. So glad to have found your blog!!
As Herm stated…eating with a knife in one hand and fork in the other, does stop people from using their fingers to push the food onto the fork…that is so uncouth. Many Americans have such bad eating habits,probably from eating at fast food restaurants all of the time,where one does not need a fork or a knife….McD’s.
As for eating a American..we tend to eat later than most of our friends.I like to eat by candlelight and in the summer it doesn’t get dark until 8:00-8:30 here in Connecticut.
While visiting friends in Spain,I could not believe that we ate dinner at 10:00 or later every night.
I just copied the tomato tart recipe and will make it this weekend for a get together.
Thank you again for the puppy pic…it is so cute.
Kathleen
As Herm stated…eating with a knife in one hand and fork in the other, does stop people from using their fingers to push the food onto the fork…that is so uncouth. Many Americans have such bad eating habits,probably from eating at fast food restaurants all of the time,where one does not need a fork or a knife….McD’s.
As for eating a American..we tend to eat later than most of our friends.I like to eat by candlelight and in the summer it doesn’t get dark until 8:00-8:30 here in Connecticut.
While visiting friends in Spain,I could not believe that we ate dinner at 10:00 or later every night.
I just copied the tomato tart recipe and will make it this weekend for a get together.
Thank you again for the puppy pic…it is so cute.
Kathleen
Hi Kristin! Fascinating post, especially about the milk. Maybe I wish I didn’t know that 😉 I’ve been so busy the last few months, I haven’t had time to read the blogs I’ve subscribed to, and I’ve missed yours SO much!!! But I saved them, and I’m going to catch up now. Looking forward to catching up on Ann’s too and hopefully win her book :). And thanks for your recipes–they sound wonderful!
Hi Kristin! Fascinating post, especially about the milk. Maybe I wish I didn’t know that 😉 I’ve been so busy the last few months, I haven’t had time to read the blogs I’ve subscribed to, and I’ve missed yours SO much!!! But I saved them, and I’m going to catch up now. Looking forward to catching up on Ann’s too and hopefully win her book :). And thanks for your recipes–they sound wonderful!
Thanks Kristin for the wonderful puppies photo. I love the post and will get the book — but the photo made my day.
Stay well!
Thanks Kristin for the wonderful puppies photo. I love the post and will get the book — but the photo made my day.
Stay well!
Kristin, I really enjoyed reading this post! Made me smile as I looked back on my first adventures (and some continuing!) with the French and food. I have already ordered Ann’s book and can’t wait to read it. I met her at your book reading at Shakespeare and Company—our knee to knee seating introduced us! So many great memories of that evening, thanks to you!
Kristin, I really enjoyed reading this post! Made me smile as I looked back on my first adventures (and some continuing!) with the French and food. I have already ordered Ann’s book and can’t wait to read it. I met her at your book reading at Shakespeare and Company—our knee to knee seating introduced us! So many great memories of that evening, thanks to you!
Love the photo of the little table outside the door … that could easily be a favorite place to eat. The photo of the puppies brought me joy! Thanks for sharing the link to Ann, too. Always look forward to your writing and photos 🙂
Love the photo of the little table outside the door … that could easily be a favorite place to eat. The photo of the puppies brought me joy! Thanks for sharing the link to Ann, too. Always look forward to your writing and photos 🙂
There’s nothing cuter than a litter of puppies. Like you, we kept one of the males and had years of wonderful times with mother and son. Thanks for the memories.
There’s nothing cuter than a litter of puppies. Like you, we kept one of the males and had years of wonderful times with mother and son. Thanks for the memories.
Thanks for another great post … I look forward to reading each and every one of these and always smile in anticipation of a good read when it hits my inbox! So, where’s my favorite place to eat you ask … well, in the summer it is definitely seated early morning at the dinette in my RV savoring fresh tea biscuits, jam, yogurt and a long leisurely cup of coffee while watching the birds, just outside the floor to ceiling windows, enjoying their breakfast at the bird feeder … and you know what? I enjoy this scene rain OR shine! And the earlier in the morning the better … just as the sun is rising is amazing! Bon appetit!
Thanks for another great post … I look forward to reading each and every one of these and always smile in anticipation of a good read when it hits my inbox! So, where’s my favorite place to eat you ask … well, in the summer it is definitely seated early morning at the dinette in my RV savoring fresh tea biscuits, jam, yogurt and a long leisurely cup of coffee while watching the birds, just outside the floor to ceiling windows, enjoying their breakfast at the bird feeder … and you know what? I enjoy this scene rain OR shine! And the earlier in the morning the better … just as the sun is rising is amazing! Bon appetit!
Loved the French dining “tips” with all the little idiosyncrasies. These make us all so different even though we’re all the same! I suppose when you think about some of them they do make a lot of sense! My favorite place to eat is at home, sitting in our front garden overlooking the endless fields of the Conwy valley and Snowdonia Mountain range!
Loved the French dining “tips” with all the little idiosyncrasies. These make us all so different even though we’re all the same! I suppose when you think about some of them they do make a lot of sense! My favorite place to eat is at home, sitting in our front garden overlooking the endless fields of the Conwy valley and Snowdonia Mountain range!
Re: tucking in your napkin at a meal or not, my father (a Frenchman) used to have a cloth napkin with a buttonhole at one corner. He would then just attach it to one of the top buttons of his shirt, and voila! it stayed in place during the entire meal! Result: spotless shirt every time!
Re: tucking in your napkin at a meal or not, my father (a Frenchman) used to have a cloth napkin with a buttonhole at one corner. He would then just attach it to one of the top buttons of his shirt, and voila! it stayed in place during the entire meal! Result: spotless shirt every time!
EXCELLENT – UPLIFTING – and … THE PERFECT EXCUSE TO MY MOTHER FOR LEAVING MY ELBOWS ON LA TABLE! Kristin, you just keep knocking them “out of the park” ! Aloha!
EXCELLENT – UPLIFTING – and … THE PERFECT EXCUSE TO MY MOTHER FOR LEAVING MY ELBOWS ON LA TABLE! Kristin, you just keep knocking them “out of the park” ! Aloha!
Our dear Kristi,
What a wonderful post (and love the pictures!)
This filled me with memory;like Herm, I had a ‘transition’ getting used to fork in one hand,knife in other (and bread used to collect sauce/gravy).Maybe this is common in Europe(?) as our relatives, friends, as well as belle mere and belle pere,always ate this way as a matter of fact.(I was used to cuttting and then eating with my right hand.)In the Summer we loved having meals outside in the garden. (Hubby and I still do that,too)
Thanks,dear Krisit!!
Love, Natalia XO
Our dear Kristi,
What a wonderful post (and love the pictures!)
This filled me with memory;like Herm, I had a ‘transition’ getting used to fork in one hand,knife in other (and bread used to collect sauce/gravy).Maybe this is common in Europe(?) as our relatives, friends, as well as belle mere and belle pere,always ate this way as a matter of fact.(I was used to cuttting and then eating with my right hand.)In the Summer we loved having meals outside in the garden. (Hubby and I still do that,too)
Thanks,dear Krisit!!
Love, Natalia XO
Charming post! I learned a lot too. Think I’ll stick with fresh milk for my beloved lattes!
My favorite summer dining place? In the yard under the shade of the plum trees at a vintage table and chairs much like those pictured. Eating garden fresh tomatoes, mozzarella, basil and olive oil salad right this minute…your bon appetit is timely!
Thank you for sharing the chance to win your friend’s new book — such a gorgeous cover!
Charming post! I learned a lot too. Think I’ll stick with fresh milk for my beloved lattes!
My favorite summer dining place? In the yard under the shade of the plum trees at a vintage table and chairs much like those pictured. Eating garden fresh tomatoes, mozzarella, basil and olive oil salad right this minute…your bon appetit is timely!
Thank you for sharing the chance to win your friend’s new book — such a gorgeous cover!
During my recent stay in Paris, on three of the four nights I walked into my hotel near midnight 1) drinking a can of Coke, 2) eating a crepe, and 3) drinking another can of soda. The night clerk grinned each time he handed my key and wished me good eating/drinking.
I’d assumed it was because French people don’t wander around eating and drinking the way Americans do. They eat at the table, and their cars don’t have cup holders.
I notice that two of your examples, Kristin, are also outside of the standard eating situation. Picnics in parks are common enough, but I don’t think a lot of French people eat in their cars, or munch pizza on the sidewalk (they can’t — how would they use a knife and fork?). Maybe that’s why you garnered the attention.
During my recent stay in Paris, on three of the four nights I walked into my hotel near midnight 1) drinking a can of Coke, 2) eating a crepe, and 3) drinking another can of soda. The night clerk grinned each time he handed my key and wished me good eating/drinking.
I’d assumed it was because French people don’t wander around eating and drinking the way Americans do. They eat at the table, and their cars don’t have cup holders.
I notice that two of your examples, Kristin, are also outside of the standard eating situation. Picnics in parks are common enough, but I don’t think a lot of French people eat in their cars, or munch pizza on the sidewalk (they can’t — how would they use a knife and fork?). Maybe that’s why you garnered the attention.
WOW 11 years. Time really does fly by. I have enjoyed so many years of your posts and friendship and look forward to many, many more.
I have Ann Mah’s book on my wish list, will pre order in August. Loved her last book.
Puppies, puppies, puppies. Such a cute picture.
Jules I would love to see you painting.
xoxo
WOW 11 years. Time really does fly by. I have enjoyed so many years of your posts and friendship and look forward to many, many more.
I have Ann Mah’s book on my wish list, will pre order in August. Loved her last book.
Puppies, puppies, puppies. Such a cute picture.
Jules I would love to see you painting.
xoxo
Thanks for this one Kristi…we are going to be in France one last time (Avignon..Arles and Paris )so will feel more at ease with the table manners this time…and…I think I have picked up a bit more of the vacabulary since our last trip ..Thanks to your blog .
Merci beaucoup !!
Thanks for this one Kristi…we are going to be in France one last time (Avignon..Arles and Paris )so will feel more at ease with the table manners this time…and…I think I have picked up a bit more of the vacabulary since our last trip ..Thanks to your blog .
Merci beaucoup !!